There are times at life when we feel a bit loss and adrift.

Our previous intentions, for better and for worse, have gotten us to where we are and created the life to which we now feel somewhat alienated.

We know things aren’t working exactly but aren’t sure how to go about manifesting anything different.

What to do?

Sometimes we aren’t quite yet sure what we want, but life is giving us a few good clues about what we DON’T Want. 

Here’s a simple explanation of a five-step process that I use with my clients.

Step 1. One way to discover your goals is by writing down a list of what you DON”T want:

  • I don’t want a huge commute fighting traffic.
  • I don’t want to be exhausted all day.
  • I don’t want to be bored out of my mind (boredom is always a very good signals that you aren’t exactly up to what makes your heart sing.)
  • I don’t want to be single any more.
  • I don’t want to spend my life drifting from doctor to doctor with no relief.

These are all very good places to begin.

Step 2. Once you know what you DON”T want, you can begin to glimpse what direction to take instead:

  • I want a job with little to no commute, say taking less than 15 minutes to get to work.
  • I want to enjoy consistent, even energy all day long without having to live on caffeine and sugar to get there.
  • I want excitement in my work.
  • I want to find the love of my life, my true soul companion.
  • I want to get well finally!

 Once what you DON”T want has led you to uncover what you DO want, shed a little more light on the subject with the exercise DO? BE? HAVE?

For any goal that you DO want, ask yourself what would you have to DO to achieve it, BE to enjoy it and HAVE to manifest it.

Let’s say you realize that you DON”T want to feel creatively blocked anymore.

What you recognize you DO want is to experience creative flow in all areas of your life.

Begin to day dream.

Step 3. What would you need to DO?

  • Start painting, sewing, making jewelry, crocheting, knitting and/or journaling
  • Visit museums, online craft stores, yarn stores and/or reading great works of literature for inspiration
  • Keep a scrapbook of ideas for things you would like to paint, sew, bead, crochet, knit or write about.


Step 4. Who would you need to BE?

  • Well rested so you have the energy to enjoy a new hobby
  • Curious about new ways of thinking, living and relating
  • Fearless enough to try something new – better to endure the pain of evolution than stay stuck in the misery of your old patterns.

Step 5. What would you need to have?

  • Pen and paint, a needle and thread, a box of beads, yarn and a crochet hook, yarn and knitting needles and a pattern and/or a laptop
  • Free time to explore 
  • A room/place to do your thing.

 Goal setting can be simple and easy if you break it down in steps:

  1. Decide what you no longer want.
  2. Make a choice about what you do want.
  3. Figure out what you would need to do in order to get it.
  4. Figure out who you need to become in order to enjoy it.
  5. Figure out the resources you would need to have in order to manifest it.

 It’s easy to get stuck at any point in the process. If you find yourself in that position, give me a ring and set up an appointment at 678-612-8816 (or email I can help you identify where you are stuck and do a healing to propel you forward, removing the blocks that have held you back.

What is healing? Healing happens when you become clear about your goals and become willing to do whatever it takes to achieve them.