“They tore my heart out and stomped that sucker flat,” Lewis Grizzard
Who amongst us has not suffered from a broken heart?
You broke up with your girlfriend or boyfriend.
You suffered through a divorce.
You lost a loved one.
You worked your heart out and lost the job anyway through mass layoffs, no fault of your own.
The list of possible causes of heartbreak goes on.
“The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever.” Caroll Bryant
Having your heart broken feels intensely personal but it is an inevitable part of the human experience.
By the age of 30 you may have had your heart broken so many times you may be suffering from a depression that no antidepressant or natural healing remedy seems to touch.
By the age of 50, you may have had your heart broken so many more times you may be suffering from loneliness, hopelessness or a forlorn attitude that life feels too unbearable to continue.
Your doctor may have diagnosed you with heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, congestive heart failure or worse. Deep inside you know the real causes.
Getting past the pain of heartbreak may seem like an insurmountable task.
Here is a simple technique from kinesiology you can use anytime, anywhere to clear broken heart.
- Recognize that your heart is broken.
- Determine whether you are punishing yourself, protecting yourself or both.
- Make an X over your heart area.
- Tap the crown of your head while looking up, down, left and right. Continue tapping the crown of your head while looking up, down, right and left.
How can you tell if you are punishing yourself?
“I have no need for revenge. I am no longer yours and that is punishment enough.” Lauren Eden
If, during your self talk, you ruminate over all your so-called mistakes, if you blame yourself for what happened, if you interrogate yourself about all you think you could have or should have done better, you may be punishing yourself.
As they say, hindsight is 2020.
When we know better we do better.
Beating up on yourself won’t solve your heartbreak. It may simply protract your suffering.
How can you tell if you are protecting yourself?
“There is a part of her heart that is off limits. Because someone, somewhere in the past broke it. Don’t take it personally, it was unbelievable hurt that she was sure would kill her. But it didn’t. But you must know she will never bargain that piece again.” JmStorm
If you have given up, if you have come to the conclusion it’s too painful to date, to put yourself out there to meet other people or to risk loving again you are definitely protecting yourself.
Whether you are punishing yourself or protecting yourself when you suffer from a broken heart you quite literally shut down your heart chakra and restrict the flow of energy running through this crucial center.
When you close your heart, you may continue to suffer depression, loneliness and heart disease that no doctor or pill can begin to touch.
As a medical intuitive healer, I believe that healing your heart has more to do than just taking up a sensible exercise program, lowering your cholesterol, learning how to breathe properly or finding new ways to lower your stress.
As helpful as all these strategies may be, they won’t touch what it actually takes to heal a broken heart.
If you are currently suffering from a broken heart you may watch the video above and scoff at the idea that this simple technique could even begin to heal the deep soul loss you are experiencing.
However, this technique is a very good start because it allows your heart to open again.
When your heart opens you allow the unconditional love that’s actually all around you 24/7 to start flowing again.
You open yourself back up to the possibility of happiness, intimacy and deep soul rewarding connection.
Of course there may be much more your heart requires.
You may need to discover what you need to fill your heart with joy again.
You can come up with just a few good ideas that may apply to you by reading my blog 81 Ways to Heal Your Heart This Valentines Day.
Recognize that if you are suffering from a broken heart the pain you experience has gone deeper than just your emotions and pierced your very soul.
Give yourself permission to let go of the pain.
Compassionately inquire within to discover what you need to restore your passion for life itself.
What is healing? Healing happens when you take the time to mend your broken heart.
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Divine guidance led me to your page. I realize that I am suffering from a broken heart. I have loved people who have never returned my love or people who I thought were genuine showed me that they view me as competition and trying to one-up me. I have decided to take time out and this year to heal from dating and from fake friendships. I realized that a part of myself was fake and now I am healing that part and learning to be a friend to myself because looking back I have never known the true meaning of friendship or what it means to be a good girl friend. I realize that just because I don’t cheat doesn’t mean that I am a good girl friend, there is more to being in a romantic relationship than not being cheated on and being faithful. I have discovered that I am emotionally unavailable and now I am healing that part of myself. I am learnign to be emotional with myself. I am alone and finding myself in my solitude is quiet liberating, realizing that I have everything that I need 🙂 All I need to do now is learn to trust myself again.
Dear Mwimeko, It sounds like you are truly following your own soul guidance! As you are already know, there are many layers to healing our hearts. Before we can have healthy relationships with other people I feel we must cultivate a compassionate connection with our own soul. You may also enjoy reading my article, “Do you have a healthy relationship with your true self?” https://catherinecarrigan.com/do-you-have-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-true-self/ I work with clients all over the world to clear the core issues that have bound them in misery. I have an entire stack of relationship issues that I clear. In the past 10 years, I have thrown myself into doing this inner work for myself and am happier with myself and in a better relationship than ever before. Let me know if you feel I can empower you further in this area! You may also enjoy watching my interview with Penney Peirce about how to trust yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DVQLWOnrbQQ and also my interview with Gary Salyer about how to feel safe to love again: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4e9_Vpwp7k&list=PLMypu8d1Ekddpd8b84PRWRkxVnZOTcqoo&index=102&t=7s Hope this helps! Catherine Carrigan