The Value Of Bonding
This past week, I worked with a client who came in and said, “I just don’t know how to take care of myself!”
Using kinesiology, I checked her reflexes to figure out whether or not she had been breast fed as a baby.
She had not been best fed, and her reflexes showed that instinctively her entire nervous system tends to turn away from that which nurtures her. I did a healing to integrate her bonding reflexes so that she can now turn towards her natural sources of nurturing.
Learning how to bond is one of the most important things you can ever do.
Bonding has to do with the acupuncture meridian called Circulation-Sex or the Pericardium Meridian.
Your pericardium is a double-walled sac containing your heart. You can learn more about the emotions for this and all your other meridians at this link on my website.
The emotions having to do with your Pericardium Meridian include:
- Renouncing the past
Above all, this Circulation-Sex Meridian has to do with our sense of connection.
The first person we usually connect with is our mother through the process of breast feeding. When we learn how to bond well, we can connect to our bodies, connect to our higher selves, connect to intimate partners, connect to a meaningful community and to the world around us.
It is a scientifically proven fact that the more socially connected you are, the longer you are likely to live and the healthier and happier you are likely to be as you age.
The opposite of feeling connected is feeling lonely, alone and outside a meaningful support network.
In a recent study by the Center for Cognitive and Social Neuroscience at the University of Chicago, researchers found that lonely people have blood pressure readings that are as much as 30 points higher than non-lonely people.
Many of my clients have felt separate and alone literally their entire lives.
The good news is that if you have felt this way – even your entire life – you can integrate your bonding reflexes. Set up an appointment with me and I will help you.
Reflexes are very interesting in that they go way beyond your rational mind. Even if you know intellectually that you would be better off with more friends, a healthy intimate partnership or a meaningful community of like-minded people, you may not be able to accomplish this very easily if your bonding reflexes are switched off.
Early in his career, the great physician of the mind, Sigmund Freud, founder of psychoanalysis, came up with a theory that the basis of hysteria or obsessional neurosis was a suppressed memory of childhood sexual abuse or molestation. He later abandoned this theory, concluding that many of these memories were fantasies.
Whether our blocks to connection are real or imagined, it is important to clear them so that we can be happy and healthy.
Good affirmations for the Circulation-Sex or Pericardium Meridian include:
- I LIVE WITH JOY, MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT.
- I AM CONNECTED TO MY BODY.
- I AM CONNECTED TO A MEANINGFUL COMMUNITY OF LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE.
- I FIT IN.
What is healing? Healing happens when we overcome the blocks, congestion, resistance or interference to forming meaningful bonds to our bodies, our true selves, a healthy intimate partner, our families and a supportive community of like-minded people.