I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.


One of life’s greatest blessings is enjoying the company of like-minded friends.

This week, I was talking to my great friend Gary Schwartz, psychologist, sculptor, real estate entrepreneur, qi gong teacher, EFT practitioner and lover of life.

We were comparing simple, easy and profound ways to bring about total forgiveness.

I shared with Gary that I have learned this mantra:

I love you.

You love me.

I forgive you.

You forgive me.

The practice that I learned is this. If you find yourself in a conflict with someone and discover that you are holding judgment, bitterness or resentment towards another, you can repeat this mantra until the energy clears. It’s one of the simplest natural healing remedies there is.

Gary shared with me that he had learned another mantra, ho’oponopono, which is an ancient Hawaiian technique for healing and forgiveness.

Ho’oponopono goes like this:

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

Thank you.

Gary pointed out that our world is a projection of our own mind. So if I see someone as evil or bad or having made a mistake, that perception is a projection of my own mind.

Gary pointed out that we can expand the mantra to include, “I am sorry that I have created you as…” and then include our perception.

“I am sorry I have created you as a bad person who I see as someone who has wronged me.”

Gary told the story about a scientifically-minded man who had a daughter who had suffered for many years with a serious skin problem. The man tried all kinds of remedies to try to help his daughter. Finally, in total frustration, he went to a practitioner of Ho’oponopono.

The Hawaiian healer repeated a mantra and then announced, “O.K., it is done.”

The man felt frustrated that yet again he had been ripped off.

However, the next day his daughter’s skin problem was 100 percent relieved.

I really love the version that Gary describes because it reminds us that when we view ourselves as wronged or victimized in any ways, that feeling is frankly just a perception of our own mind.

Forgiving other people fully and completely is one of the most powerful healing techniques you can ever apply.

If you are unwell in mind or body, you may do well to ask yourself who you need to forgive, beginning with yourself.

Then find time throughout the day – perhaps while driving to work, going for a walk, before bed or prior to meditation – when you can repeat forgiveness mantras until you have completely shifted the energy.

You will know when you have completely forgiven someone when you can think of that person without any negativity whatsoever.

If you are still holding on to a story of sorry and woe, more than likely you have not completely released all your own negativity and there is yet another layer of forgiveness that you can find within yourself.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

Thank you.

I was speaking with one of my clients recently and I quoted her a line from A Course in Miracles: “All I see is the past.”

Forgiveness allows us to keep our energy in the present moment, where joy actually happens.

If you are interested in learning more, please call Catherine Carrigan at 678-612-8816 or email catherine@catherinecarrigan.com for a FREE 15 minute consultation.