One of the major ego dramas that keep us weighted down, literally and figuratively, is seeing the world in terms of perpetrators and victims.
When I am doing a medical intuitive reading, I look for the places in your life where you are losing your power with this sort of thinking.
You know the perpetrators – they are the so-called “bad guys.” They’re the police/the government/the evil business people/black people/white people/foreigners/big corporations. I am sure you could name many more.
The victims are the so-called injured parties.
They think they have been hurt beyond repair.
The trouble with being a professional victim is that it is the weakest possible way to see yourself.
If you are projecting out into the world that everybody is out to get you, you may never get ahead.
You win your multi-million dollar lawsuit only to get your feelings hurt by your mother-in-law and your money lost to the next perpetrator who comes along to make your life miserable.
Playing the victim will keep you stuck in depression no matter how much you exercise, eat well, meditate, volunteer to serve others, take vitamins or engage in any other supposedly healthy activity.
How do you discover if you have been playing the role of victim?
Step 1. Make a list. Title it, “Everybody who has supposedly injured me in any way.” Begin with your parents and your family of origin – that should keep you busy for awhile. Proceed outwards from there, because in the subconscious mind, everybody else is playing the role of mommy, daddy or family.
Step 2. Beside each person, group or organization that supposedly injured you, write down the payoff you received. A payoff is a benefit you received from playing the role of victim. For example, if you see yourself as a so-called victim of your father, your payoff could have been you learned to be independent, to make it on your own. That would be a positive payoff. A negative payoff could be that you could see yourself as weak and innocent and the whole world out there as full of monsters plotting to get you.
Step 3. Own your power. Rewrite your story. Instead of seeing yourself as a victim, recognize that your ego chose to play that role. Your soul chose the experience for probably an entirely different reason – to become stronger, to grow, to experience the duality of life. Without your original wounds you would not be the person you are today.
Step 4. Give thanks. Silently thank the people or organizations that you once named as a perpetrator. Recognize that your soul chose the entire experience – even if you are not immediately clear why that might be the case. Silently thank the one-time perpetrators, bless them, wish them well, and allow them to go about their merry way, even if in your mind they appear to be continuing their evil-doing ways.
As you work through this process, you will feel yourself becoming lighter and lighter.
What is healing?
Healing happens when we recognize that all things work out for our highest good.