You Can’t Heal Your Body If You Hate It
Last week I was doing a medical intuitive reading of a woman with advanced breast cancer. Although she has been working with medical doctors and a naturopath, she wanted deeper insight about what she could do to heal herself completely.
Your body is an endless source of fascination to me.
How do your thoughts, emotions and behaviors manifest into illness?
What have you been eating that has made you so sick?
How does your environment play into the way you feel?
What soul messages have you been ignoring?
What really needs to shift for you to experience wholeness again?
When I looked at the root causes of the breast cancer, one of the major factors was my client’s life-long disdain for her physical body.
Although it might seem superficial, I encouraged her to purchase new clothes so that she could actually feel beautiful while going through her medical treatments.
She needed to overcome her life-long hatred of her body and learn to love it instead.
“You can’t heal your body if you hate it,” I advised.
Although you may be aware that the way you think and feel about your body may affect your self confidence, did you ever stop and wonder if your habit of constantly finding fault with your body – nay I say even hatred of it – is actually making you deeply ill?
Do you really think you would have to look like a super model for you to love your body?
This habit of hating our bodies manifests in many seemingly “positive” behaviors.
So-called “healthy” eating programs that are actually highly restrictive of the carbs, fat, protein and even calories you need to maintain your health, metabolism and energy.
Over exercising, beating your body into submission through pummeling exercise.
Plastic surgery, cutting things off, adding things on, injecting toxic poisons into your face.
Detox programs that are fancy forms of starvation.
And, by the way, if you have engaged in any of these behaviors please know I’m not judging you, I’m just encouraging you to ask what’s really going on in your inner thoughts that makes you feel like your wrinkles, your grey hair, your sagging body parts or lumps and bulges are not actually worth deeply loving?
After all, if your body is the vehicle through which your soul will fulfill this life’s purpose, don’t you think God would have blessed you with just the right one to get your job done?
God doesn’t make mistakes and He certainly didn’t make any mistakes when He made you.
In recent years I had come to believe I was 5 foot 4.
Then, in a random bet with my boyfriend’s 14-year-old grandson, I found myself standing in a kitchen getting measured with a pencil mark over my head and a long metal tape.
Alas, although in my late 30s a doctor once actually measured me at 5 foot 4, as of now, at age 60, the measuring tape reveals I’m actually 5 foot 3.
Not what I had hoped! Not what my recent self image was built upon! Dare I accept the startling news?
When I would look up the proper size at my favorite dress shop, I would note that I thought I was 5 foot 4. This profound tallness (in my eyes) gave me a wonderful feeling about myself. I was no longer petite. I was a “normal” size.
My boyfriend and his grandson looked amused by my distress as I stood sputtering over the metal tape measure. Now I’m the shortest person not just in my own family but also in my boyfriend’s family, other than the babies.
“Well why don’t we just say you’re 5 foot 5,” my boyfriend offered.
“But that would be a lie,” I replied, still wrapping my head around the awful news.
Apparently I had been telling myself a lie – even though I actually believed I was 5 foot 4 – when all along at least in recent years I’ve been a mere 5 foot 3.
“I like being 5 foot 4,” I protested.
“Nobody cares,” my boyfriend replied, deeply amused by my predicament.
“Not enough yoga, not enough backbends” I silently thought to myself.
Even though I teach yoga about five times a week and practice sometimes more, this too is at best a massive rationalization.
Meanwhile I notice in the light that my brown hair has many more shiners and sometimes my belly and thighs look lumpier than I would prefer.
Thankfully, my need for eyeglasses precludes the revelation of the crinkling going on throughout my face.
I’ve always felt there’s a certain wisdom about the aging process. As our eyesight fades we are not able to find fault so easily.
The inner struggle I’m describing here to accept my actual height is just one of many conflicts I’ve had to resolve to come into greater self acceptance.
Here are a few steps you can take to love your own body more deeply:
Mirror Work. I sometimes prescribe a radical exercise – strip down to your underwear in front of a full length, take a lip liner or eye liner and write the words “I love you” on every body part you’ve been hating.
I have done this myself. It’s kind of scary at first.
Throughout the day when you look in the mirror, instead of looking for the flaws find your beauty. Indeed, if you look you will find.
Express your fabulous true self through your clothing.There is nothing superficial about wearing clothes on the outside that reflect who you really are on the inside.
Openly display your playfulness, your hope, your boldness, your softness, your grace, your femininity or masculinity, your confidence, your earthiness, your inner queen or king, your strength, your quirkiness and give the world a glimpse of what is unique and special about who you really are.
Colors heal the spiritual body. When you dress yourself every morning, use your intuition to choose the colors of clothing that will express your best self that day.
Drab, shapeless clothing that covers up your inner beauty only drags your energy down.
Affirm your beauty/handsomeness. The most powerful words you hear all day long are the ones you say to yourself.
As you use these affirmations, put your hands over your heart and feel the way your body responds when you speak kindly to it.
I AM BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME INSIDE AND OUT.
MY INNER BEAUTY RADIATES FROM INSIDE OUT.
I SEE MY OWN BEAUTY.
I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO ENJOY MY BODY.
I LOVE MY BODY AND HEED ITS MANY MESSAGES.
I HONOR MY BODY AS THE VEHICLE OF MY SOUL.
I LOVE THIS PRECIOUS BODY.
I FEEL GOOD IN MY BODY AND ENJOY BEING ME.
I HAVE COMPLETED THE CYCLE OF PUNISHING MY BODY AND NOW TREAT IT WITH ULTIMATE KINDNESS AND COMPASSION.
I FEED MY BODY WITH HEALTHY FOOD, KIND WORDS AND DEEP UNDERSTANDING.
I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR HARMING MY BODY IN THE PAST.
I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR STARVING MY BODY OF WHAT IT TRULY NEEDS.
I HAVE COMPLETED THE CYCLE OF TRYING TO FORCE MY BODY TO BE SOMETHING IT DOESN’T WANT TO BE.
I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO MEET MY BODY’S TRUE NEEDS.
I HAVE THE RIGHT TO LOVE MY BODY THE WAY IT ALREADY IS.
I NOW CELEBRATE MY FABULOUS BODY, FEELING EXCITED TO BE FULLY ALIVE.
Working inside, working outside, come to the place where you enjoy living in the body you have been blessed to live in during this precious lifetime.
Feeling good all the way down to your bones you discover a deep reverence for your body.
It’s crucial that you care enough for your body that you maintain the gift of life.
What is healing? Healing happens when you learn to express deep reverence for the life you have been given in your precious body.
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